Basic animal nature mandates that we see any change in our lifestyle or environment as a problem. If we then view that problem as a threat, our fight or flight instincts will engage. Change is inevitable. It is occurring around us all the time. Rather than seeing each problem as a threat, see it as an opportunity. The way we make that transition has to do with our perception. Keith Ayers, founder of the Integro Leadership Institute has a simple yet impactful model depicting two different Change Cycles: the Maintenance Cycle and the Growth Cycle. For example, when change occurs, the first place to look is at your reaction to it. If you are behaving defensively then that is a signal that you perceive the change as a threat. At this point you are in the Maintenance Cycle. The goal … Read More »
As you gear up for the weekend do you have expectations of how it will look? Perhaps it’s attending a sporting event, having a picnic in the park, hosting out-of-town guests or doing a home improvement project? Whatever you have planned, it is your weekend and you “expect” it to go the way you planned. So, there is nothing worse than losing your weekend to one of life’s curveballs such as a sudden illness, a rained-out picnic, or a child coming home with a case of head lice (yuck).
Essentially your “system” has been impacted. Take tackling head lice for example. Your weekend and your home have now been turned upside down. What was once a weekend of fun family activities, a few chores and some downtime now consists of cancelling your plans, spending money on lice treatment, treating your entire … Read More »